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Saturday, January 17, 2009

Write There (Part I): Realizing Your Own Writing Style

Do you know your own writing style?

SCENARIO ONE—You're visiting this blog because you have some version of fear of writing and “recognizing your style” is a mystery you haven't cracked yet.

SCENARIO TWO—Perhaps you've been writing for some time now and you're very aware of your own style. But what about changing genres or platforms? Will you need to get a new style?

Two recent experiences taught me that style is about more than just the way we say things. Or, as Wikipedia defines it:

Writing style is the manner in which a writer addresses a matter in prose, a manner which reveals the writer's personality, or 'voice.' It is particularly evident in the choices the writer makes in syntactical structures, diction, and figures of thought.”

I believe style is also about knowing what’s right for you.

In this three-part article, I’ll be exploring my claim from the perspective of both Scenario One and Two.


What I Learned from My Own “Fear of Blog Writing”

Partly because I had inner conflict and confusion about my style as a blogger, I'd let my blog entries lapse for over a year. I had even decided to get rid of this blog. I’d copied all the articles onto my hard drive so I could delete it. The thing was rife with cobwebs.

Then, on October 24 of last year, I decided to post an entry exploring my subconscious fears (Fear of Blog Writing).

Understandably, I found this to be a liberating exercise. There's something about admitting to our fears—however silly—that demystifies them.

My “fear of blog writing” post tackled three main fears. Two of them were just plain silly and so the mere act of examining them (especially in public!) was enough to replace them with better mental habits.

After my Ah-ha! moment in a screenwriting tele-class (coming up in Part II), I was able to look back and see that my third fear actually indicated something important about my own personal style.

Something that should not be tossed out with the garbage.


A Fear That Can Be Worked With

My third fear was “It Takes Too Long”—meaning, it takes too long to write and otherwise prep and post each blog entry and (you guessed it) “I don't have time for all that.”

Despite this, and even though I now blog on a more regular basis, my blog style—the very things I dissed myself for—has not changed at all.

I still write long blog entries. I still love to painstakingly match the right image with my blog posts whenever I can.

I still lavish copious amounts of proofreading time on each post . . . as if it were a work of art.

MY work of art.

Each creative person needs to define for herself what constitutes a work of art. And sometimes it takes retrospect to do that.

I’ll show you how at the end of Part III.


NEXT: Write There (Part II): Changing Gears as a Writer


Write There (Part II): Changing Gears as a Writer

WHEN YOU’RE CHANGING as a writer, you might change in big, BIG ways—but certain things about your personal style might need to stay the same.

Currently, I'm in the second category mentioned in Write There (Part I): that of changing both genres and platforms.

For the past nine years, I’ve developed and expressed my style as the fear of writing expert—the “no critiques allowed/this is a safe place to explore your creativity” lady—and the prolific generator of writing prompts that give you a fun storyline to work with.

My chief genre up ‘til now has been self-help for writers. My platform has been my book, Website, workshops and online writing course.

But now I'm moving into new territory; reinventing myself as a screenwriter. The screenplay is my new platform. My new genre—at least for my first screenplay—is time travel/adventure/romance.

There's a lot to learn! Not only about my new craft but about myself in relation to this new story-telling platform.


My Tele-Class “Ah-Ha!” Moment

Recently I attended a tele-class about asking carefully targeted questions to structure the genre of your screenplay. I'm a great believer in asking questions to help explore my characters and their dilemmas, and the tele-class was being taught by a respected screenwriting teacher, so I was looking forward to learning some insider secrets.

But I was not able to last the distance. What this call (re)confirmed for me is that these kinds of writing systems are too cerebral for me.

I know they work for others . . . but I am not those others. I have to know what's right for ME.

What works for me is to write my first raw draft from a deep well of passion, plus an organic knowledge from within of what my story is about.

Once I have my first draft, I can go about finessing the structure (and other important elements) during my rewrites.

I'm a stickler for structure, professional presentation and rewriting my story until it's the best it can be. So it's not as if I repudiate the more technical sides of creative writing (in fact, I'm always reading how-to books about my new field). But, for me, it would kill the realness of my story to think in terms of “Act II Part II relates to Act II Part I, but not Act I or Act III.”

That's just how I am.


The Silver Lining

Even though I knew in my heart I could not adopt this teacher's writing system, I did not consider my time wasted. Sometimes, learning what's not right for us can be just as valuable as finding where we fit.

It's the same thing, if you get right down to it. The secret is to avoid using situations such as this one to make judgments about yourself as a writer.

I could just as easily have said, “I'll never be good enough as a screenwriter! This kind of technical-sounding talk goes right over my head!”

But not only is that not true (I can pick it up easily when it's presented in a style that resonates with who I am), that kind of self-talk can be cruelly self-perpetuating.

Recognizing I didn't belong in that tele-class not only freed up my time to get back to my screenplay, my Ah-ha! moment even led (in a round-about way) to more self-acceptance for my own blogging style. Not to mention some deeper thinking about 'style' that led to more self-expression as a writer.

Sometimes, it pays to be in the wrong place at the right time.


NEXT: Write There (Part III): Style Is Not a Mystery



Write There (Part III): Style Is Not a Mystery

I HAVEN'T CHECKED lately, but I'm sure there are scads of books out there designed to help you with the technical aspects of style. But we already know that's not my forte, so here it is from a heart perspective:

Part of your style means doing it the way that feels good to you.

That may sound simplistic—but sometimes the simple lessons are the ones we need to keep relearning in life.

If you have total acceptance for your own style, then you probably don't need this part of the lesson. But if you’re still wondering what your own writing style is, consider this: it might be right there (write there!) under your nose in black and white.

My own personal blogging style was right there in front of me, but I was curiously ashamed of it. As I lamented in a November 2008 post (As Bloggers Go, I'm a Loser Material), the Help tips at blogger.com intimidated me with this high-octane advice:

“Keep your posts and paragraphs short. Strive for succinct posts that pump pertinent new information into the blogosphere and move on. Keep it short and sweet so visitors can pop in, read up, and click on.”

But when it comes to blogging, I’m not that kind of high octane. That's just not me.

I thought I needed to change to conform to the trends. But ya know what? I'm only a loser as a blogger if I fail to be true to my own style.


Style = The School of Learning

Recognizing your own personal style is not about stagnation. It's not about being formulaic or resting on your laurels. As writers, we should always be seeking to learn more about our craft. The school of learning is never closed! Successful writers know this.

As creative types, we should always be pouncing on opportunities to revel in producing our next work of art—however small or large that might be.

Recognizing your own personal style is about realizing you already know how to express your creativity in your own unique way.

Gaining more experience by practicing your craft (write, write, write), or learning the how-to's (by attending workshops or using books written by the experts) is simply the vehicle.

YOU are the driver. And, deep down inside, you know what you came here to do. The trick is to be able to recognize it.

OK, here’s the practical part. Open one of your writing notebooks—or that “My Writing” folder on your computer—and take a trip down memory lane. Read a selection of your writing, both recent and older.

As you read, pay attention to any patterns you might notice. Especially be on the lookout for things you’re uncertain or ashamed of that may actually be part of your own unique style.

Remember, style’s not just how you say it. Style may mean knowing that poetry is your thing, not short stories. Or that young adult novels are your true love, not the more commercial romance you’ve been working on. Or that blogging leaves you cold.

Or that blogging excites you so much, you should investigate ways to monetize your blog and get more traffic!


Style's All About Doing

It’s also about more than just figuring out which genre(s) you feel most comfortable in. It’s about the DOING part of it, too. That's where your platform comes in.

For instance, do you have a driving need to get your message out NOW? Perhaps online articles are the way to go for you . . . rather than the much longer process of having a book published (and one may lead to another, if you remain open to the possibilities).

Or you might have the makings of a renegade non-fiction author who self-publishes and then gets her book out to the people in the setting of workshops.

(Take it from me, it can be done—even if you’re very shy.)

Or, you may just want to write for your own pleasure, or to leave a legacy for your grandkids.

Look at your writing with the eyes of acceptance. What feels the most right for you? And, just as importantly, what doesn’t feel right for you?

P.S. Don't wait for the world to believe in you. Believe in yourself first. It’s a faster, more efficient way of doing it!

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RELATED POSTS:

Write There (Part I): Realizing Your Own Writing Style

Write There (Part II): Changing Gears as a Writer



Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Writers’ Resolutions for 2009 (Part II): 3 Attitudes to Make Your Goals Stick

IT’S MID-JANUARY and the puritanical glow of New Year’s Resolutions has worn off, correct?

Or perhaps you never felt it to begin with.

Common problem these days: After enough Information Overload avalanching our way, paralysis sets in and we end up doing . . . umm, nothing. We stay in the same ruts and fail to live our dreams.

Sad state of affairs.

Ready, Aim, Fire Me Up Already!

I’ve culled what I consider to be the best three mental and emotional attitudes you’ll need in 2009. Apply these to your own personal list of dreams and goals and this is guaranteed to blast you out of those old ruts—one tiny stick of dynamite at a time.

(Hint: If you don’t have a list of dreams and goals yet, try this: Writers’ Resolutions for 2009: Do It the Fun Way!)

Below are the basics for success. You can adopt one or use all three combined.

Bookmark this article so you can return for a refresher whenever you need one.


Tip #1: Do It In 90!

—from Jeff Herring, The Internet Article Guy

“Choose something that you would like to accomplish or change within the next 90 days. Ninety days is a much more manageable length of time than a year and allows us to enjoy reaching our goals more often.

What would you like to accomplish in the next 90 days?

“Once you have answered that question, here are 10 steps to get you there.”

Read the full article here, at Jeff Herring’s Great Article Marketing Blog:

Happy New Year - 90 Days from Now...

Milli’s Remarks

After reading this great advice from Jeff, I added a new section to my writing goals at SuperViva.com, entitled My 90-Day Goals Jan 1 – March 30, 2009.

My writing goals were already—for me—very exciting and motivational. But after adding this, I now have the time frames for my priorities clearly spelled out.

90 days from now my first screenplay will be finished and entered in the contest of my dreams!


Tip #2: How to Get Everything You Want In 24 Hours

—from Michael Murray, AcidAlkalineDiet.com: Optimal Health with Alkaline Foods

“I’ll admit the title of this post is a bit misleading. It reads like you can get everything you want 'in under 24 hours' but that’s not what I mean by it. I used this title to not only get your attention but to demonstrate the POWER of this statement if you fully grasp it.

“In order for you to accomplish anything in life you have to learn the power of INCREMENTAL SUCCESS. Let me explain how it works...”

Read the full article here, at AcidAlkalineDiet.com:

How To Get Everything You Want In 24 Hours

Milli’s Remarks

I heartily agree with Michael. There’s really no mystique to living your dreams.

Everything I’ve achieved with my book, newsletter and Website, the online course and workshops for writers, self-learning screenwriting at the age of 47, etc. etc. is based on living this simple principle.


Tip #3: First Be & Then Do

—from Andrea Hess, Intuitive Consultant

“Pick just one thing - yes, it can be your 'big'” thing. Then ask yourself: Who will I have to BE to attract and manifest this into my life?

“This is the question that really matters. Usually when we have a goal or intention, we think about what we will have to DO to create it. But if our Being-ness is not in alignment with our goal, then we can do all we want. No amount of doing creates a goal if the energetic resonance of our Being does not also support that goal. And action always arises out of our state of Being ... so we might as well start there.

“So pick just one thing off your list of resolutions for 2009. Who will you have to become to align your state of Being with that outcome?”

Read the full article here, at the Empowered Soul blog:

A New Perspective for New Year's Resolutions

Courtesy of Andrea Hess, Intuitive Consultant

Please visit Andrea's web site, Empowered Soul, for a free sample reading.

Milli’s Remarks

Wow, this was one I’d forgotten.

Being a highly motivated person by nature, I can get a lot done just by checking off my many To-Do Lists. How much more effective—not to mention happy!—will I become if I remember to put being ahead of achievement?

Reading this advice from Andrea has inspired me to start adding a “state of being” mission statement to my SuperViva writing goals.

Here’s the one I’ve kicked off with, which is posted under my major writing goal for the first 90 days of 2009.

Goal: Enter the 2009 PAGE International Screenwriting Awards by 3/27/09

The “state of being” I want to cultivate for this VIG (Very Important Goal):

--> Confidence in my writing abilities

--> Be enough of a morning person to equal time gained, not time pressure

--> Be reasonably ruthless about ignoring email and Internet habits (as well as perceived obligations to others) that can fritter away my precious writing time

--> Pace myself, get plenty of rest (and take some bubble baths!)—this is a 90-day haul

--> Have fun doing it!

Thank you for reading my blog . . . now go get ’em in 2009!

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Have any of these ideas inspired or assisted you? If so, please leave a comment!

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RELATED TOPIC: Writers’ Resolutions for 2009: Do It the Fun Way!

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IMAGE: "Do It In 90!" was created by Milli Thornton using Facebook's fun Graffiti app



Saturday, January 03, 2009

Writers’ Resolutions for 2009: Do It the Fun Way!

OK. What’s your current reaction when you hear the words “New Year’s Resolutions”?

—Cynicism
—Mild Amusement
—Bad memories of past failure
—Eat a jumbo bag of potato chips (aka denial)

How ’bout when you hear the words “goal setting” or “living your dreams”?

—Yada, yada
—Hopelessness
—Overwhelmed; don’t know where to start
—Boredom/“I hate writing down my goals”

Good. Then I’ve got you right where I want you. Because I’d like to show you something new and persuade you it can be fun.

It’s called a Life List. You do it online at a site called SuperViva.com. And it’s free.

Uhh, What’s a Life List?

Simply put, it’s a list of what you want to do with your life . . . with your precious time here on Earth.

Always wanted to travel to New Zealand? Add that to your list.

Dreaming of finally writing your novel? Sneak that one on there as well.

Need to clean out your garage so you can park your car in it for a change? Yep. Just click Add.

From the sublime to the mundane, anything goes.

But what if you’ve been spinning your wheels for a long time and you feel your dreams are positively numb? Can’t think of a list of your own? No problem. Just cruise around the site checking out other lists. When you see an idea you want to have on your list, click the Add button.

That was easy!

A Big Fat Checkmark for the Soul

The other half of the fun at SuperViva is the “Things I’ve Done” list, which is seen on your main page next to your “Ideas, Goals & Aspirations” list.

Whenever you’ve completed an item on your list, checkmark “Done” and it moves beautifully into position. Sometimes red balloons will even rain down as you do it. No kidding.

Talk about Motivational with a capital M!

One of the secrets to a great list (in my opinion) is to have enough smaller things listed to keep you inspired. Let’s face it. If you only have humungous dreams on there—stuff you’ll need 2-5 years to accomplish—you’ll rarely get to check Done.

I find it’s often the smaller items that keep me on my toes. Checking something off gives me a passion to check something else off—and so on. Good ol’ snowball effect.

Give your life some extra momentum today!

Plus, I’ve learned to chunk my bigger dreams down into smaller steps. And there's something about public accountability that really works. Whether or not anyone on the Web ever looks at my list, I feel a good watchman is looking over my shoulder.

Fun on a Bun

Keeping a Life List online is so zesty, I no longer have any problem staying in touch with my goals. If I’m not adding a new item or checking Done, I’m perusing my list every morning, plucking out priorities and making things happen.

I like to add images to some of my goals so they’ll be fun to look at too. If you have lots of photos (or permission-based clipart) on your computer, this is easy to do. Just click Browse.

What about privacy . . . are there some goals you don’t want the Internet-surfing public to see? No problem. Click the Private button and create a separate list for those. You’ll see them whenever you login.

Perfect for Living Your Writing Dreams

I’ve had a list at SuperViva for several years now (aussiewill) and I’ve used it to accomplish bunches of stuff—both large and small. Examples from my Done list:

—Wear jewelry & prettier clothes to work in my home office
—See the Blue Angels fly in formation overhead
—Update my business bookkeeping
—Swim with dolphins
—Finish the first draft of my screenplay in one month

Until the other day, my writing dreams were squashed in with everything else I wanted to do. I suddenly realized I wasn’t fine with that anymore! I’d gradually learned to dream bigger and take more time for my own pursuits.

I decided this bolt of realization called for nothing less than a SuperViva list of its own. I started my second list, writetime, on New Year’s Day. My theme at the top of the page says:
To live my biggest writing dreams in 2009 . . . and have fun doing it!

Start your own Life List: SuperViva sign-up page

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